all of the above. its sad. its looking for affirmation. most girls in college lives go like this:
“Man, I am having such a bad day.”
“OH my gosh girl! Let’s go clubbing! Just get hot and forget about it!”
“Okay, only if I look really hot.”

It’s true. This happens all the time. Girls need affirmation. Personally, I’d much rather have a guy (usually that I know pretty well) say “She such an awesome girl! She is so much fun,” than “hey did you see that hot girl? Think I can get with her?” But honestly, how often does a girl get affirmation for anything but her looks?